Dear Matthias, Amanda and Luna. Of late, I notice you are under greater scrutiny than ever before regarding personal choices and decisions regarding your welfare and appearence. Perhaps this is because you have a baby on the way and are being judged in ways you haven't before, or perhaps it's just a fear of change on your audience's part. Either way, I hope the following insight helps you to express to your audience how you feel. Now, I can't speak to your personal experiences - I'm not you, and I don't know exactly what your family is going throught - but as a trans woman I've been under a fair bit of scrutiny myself so I know what it's like to be under a microscope. Here is what I have learned: - Those that want you to change do so because you don't meet their standards. This is not your problem; It may be a shame, but catering to those people to keep them in your life almost always ends in disappointment on everyone's part. - Those that stick with you despite whatever you do that is out of their control are more likely to support you during adverse occasions. For example, a parent who is supportive of her trans child is more likely to support them when people say transphobic things to her in private, rather than agreeing for the sake of ending an awkward situation. It is my hope that your audience knows the impact they have on your life and wishes to impact it in the most positive way they can. Also, you no doubt noticed I also addressed this to Luna. If she ever has similar issues in her future career, I hope this letter can help her too. Take care of yourselves and each other, Kaolin Cash p.s. That's pronounced "Kay-oh-lin" ;D